“Being an optimist after you’ve got everything you want doesn’t count.”
Kin Hubbard

Have you checked your general outlook lately? Do you catch yourself expecting the worst of situations? Do you have faith in others? It may be true that failure is a better teacher than success, but, it’s important to keep a positive outlook on life.

According to the Mayo Clinic, your outlook on life –- whether you are optimistic or pessimistic -– can affect your quality of life in many ways. Optimistic people enjoy longer lives, less depression and distress, higher levels of psychological and physical well-being, better coping skills, healthier hearts –- even a higher level of resistance to the common cold!

Have you noticed that people who are optimistic seem to get more done? Maybe a little part of it is because they live longer and they don’t get sick as often, but think about things like body language, tone of voice, vocabulary. When you believe that things are going well, it is reflected in your posture, the words you say –- even the amount of eye contact you have with others. And, because people tend to reflect what they get, your optimistic outlook ‘rubs off’ on them. When you believe in yourself, others believe in you too.

So, what can we do to increase our optimism? According to the pros at the Mayo Clinic, it’s important to pay attention to your self-talk. Do what you can to remain positive -– if you’re telling yourself, “I’ve never done this before”, remind yourself that you have an opportunity to learn something new. Give it a try, and expect a good outcome. Be willing to laugh at the situation -– or even at yourself. Surround yourself with positive people, and encourage others every day. Fuel your body with beautiful, healthy foods and clean water, and energize your outlook with exercise. With a little practice and a little time, you really can become more optimistic.

Listen to that self-talk this week. What are you telling yourself? How willing are you to step out from your comfort zone and try new things? Are you cheering yourself on, or talking yourself out of success before you even get started? Think about what you can do to increase optimism in your life. Spread enthusiasm, get lots of fresh air and look forward to all the adventures that await you.

“And the time came when the risk to remain tight in a bud
was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Anaïs Nin

Sometimes, you realize you just can’t live the same way any longer for fear that you’ll blow up – or blow up at someone who happens to be near you. If you don’t “expand”, you might just explode! The explosive feelings are all about you. You’re ready – or overdue – for growth. On the up side, it can be an exciting time, but in the early stages, dealing with it is often a challenge.

Change doesn’t come to some of us very easily. It’s not tied up in a small box with a pretty bow. If we ignore repeated warnings to change, it can feel like the need to change now reared its ugly head out of nowhere. How many of us ignore those early messages, or don’t pay attention until it’s too late?

Although I have twenty plus years of business experience and a successful business with events and promotions – taking a leap and adding a new dimension is scary, even for me! Often, we have to have a breakdown before we have a breakthrough.

Breakdowns come in many forms and they show up as fear, uncertainty, risk and security issues. You may even hear your inner voice trying to talk you out of realizing your biggest dream. While that inner voice is trying to protect you from hurt, it can also limit you to a life that is safe, but not that fulfilling. That’s where this feeling that you must expand or explode comes into play.

Doing something that feels uncomfortable is often one of the hardest tasks. It’s a risk to make a change, and it takes discipline to stay the course and not give up. Moving forward fearlessly — despite the uncertainty — means saying YES to the unknown. This has been one of my lessons to learn, and I’m reminded of this lesson often.

Trust and faith play a huge role in moving forward when things get scary. It’s important to focus on what you know and to remember that you’re never given more than you can handle. Others have felt this fear and moved through it instead of away from it. Why, I bet if you look back over your own life, you can find places where you’ve moved through this fear to the other side too. Think back over those times, and do it – one more time! If it gets too hard or too scary, go somewhere private and have a mini meltdown — talk it through with a trusted friend, but keep at it. In the end, you’ll be glad you did.

Are you at a place where you need a change? Is life passing you by? Can you taste the possibility, but you’re afraid others will be disappointed by your actions? Worse yet, will others be jealous of your desire to have a better life? How’s that serving you? I’m offering a free 15 minute “Get to Know You” session. It may be just the jump start you need to start changing your world.

Give me a call – let’s talk – and Let’s Make You Shine.

Most of us work at least 40 hours a week, but our bodies (and minds) beckon us to rest.

Burning the candle at both ends can lead to burnout, so remember to take a break now and then.

Laugh, play, have a wonderful time — and come back refreshed and rejuvenated. You’ll not only find that you’re more productive — you’ll also have a sense of peace, and be ready for what life offers you next.

“Play keeps us vital and alive. It gives us an enthusiasm for
life that is irreplaceable. Without it, life just doesn’t taste good”
Lucia Capocchione

It’s summer. Hot, sunny, beach weather. And you’ve heard from me a few times about taking yourself to a new level in your business, or personally. Maybe you have the impression that it’s time to throw yourself, heart and soul, into realizing those dreams of yours. Well, it is time for that . . . but that doesn’t mean drudgery. Hard work and focus are part of building a life you love, but they’re not everything.

It’s important to move away from black-and-white thinking. Working hard does not mean that you never take a break. In fact, it means the opposite, because if you’re working hard at realizing your dreams, a break is necessary. It gives your mind, body and soul a chance to rejuvenate, and often, it takes care of the latest roadblock. It doesn’t have to be two weeks in the tropics either (hmmm…though that would be nice). An afternoon away from your routine — a mini-break — may be just the thing.

When it came to naming her business, Kendra was completely stuck. She made lists, asked friends, wrote ideas on pretty colored post-it notes, but everything eventually sounded, well, wrong. Dumb. Uninspired. The whole thing left her feeling the same way — wrong. . .dumb. . .uninspired. I told her, “I want you to forget this for a day and do something you love to do, but haven’t done in a long time. I promise that if you do, things will flow more smoothly when you get back to work.”

Kendra took my advice, and took a break. She gathered with friends at an outdoor concert. They had a great time together, full of laughter, dancing and fun. A few days later, she had a name for her business that she loves — she says it’s perfect — and inspired!

Your dreams are important, and the world needs them! You have to balance your day-to-day responsibilities, your life’s mission and yes — play. Play is important — crucial, in fact. Without fun, laughter and relaxation, really, what’s the point?

After a round of dedicated hard work, get out there and get your happy on. Have fun with friends, visit a new place, eat delicious food and listen to excellent music. Surround yourself with places, scents, colors and people that bring you joy. Let your soul (and body!) dance, and open up to laughter and fun. Whether you dip your toes in the water, sink your teeth into deliciousness or breathe in some high mountain air, you’ll come back refreshed, relaxed and ready to take on the world.

Wishing you a joyful summer.

“The more you seek security, the less of it you have.
But the more you seek opportunity, the more likely it is that
you will achieve the security that you desire.”
Brian Tracy

Sometimes you’re just guided — to stop at a coffee shop and ask directions –to help a stranger in distress — to make plans with an elderly person who needs company — to get involved in a community organization and make a difference — to make a decision that will change your life. Life offers each of us endless possibilities. If you aren’t open to them, possibilities pass you right on by.

If you give yourself permission to be open to possibility — if you’re willing to stay open and stray from your ‘plans’ — you’re off to a great start. Add in being aligned — from head to heart — and I know for a fact , that amazing things can happen.

Opportunities abound. People show up just when we need their knowledge and wisdom. Life becomes different, without the usual struggle. With the right mindset and the knowledge that you truly do create your life, you can flip your internal switch at any time and propel yourself forward. I like to call it Manifesting on Demand®.  It’s not always instant, but it’s a process that works, and can be accelerated with practice.

Manifesting on Demand® means putting your desired outcomes ‘out there’. Think about what you really want and how it will make you feel. Put your dream down on paper… talk about it… hope for what you want and begin to expect it! When you’re in a good place mentally, emotionally, physically — feeling happy about realizing your dream — you are on your way. It may take time to get what you want, so place your ‘order’ today! Then, move forward with good intentions and a sense of gratitude that your dream is already being realized. It’s all about the feeling you have in the NOW and expectation that your dream is on its way — which it is! Positive thoughts and openness to possibility produce positive results. Find that positive, open place within yourself, then you are able to manifest the life of your dreams and it will be delivered.

This week, I’d like you to notice how open you are to possibility. Do you wake up dreading another day, or are you open to what the world has in store for you? Are you going to bed at night praying for rest from the madness, or are you creating the life you’ve always wanted? I’ve lived both ways and from my experience, the way to go is to be open to possibility, because there’s so much delight in the unexpected!

Live the life you deserve. Isn’t it about time?

Has anyone out there had a bad day where you’ve just beat yourself up  — over and over again —  about something you said, did, or imagined you had a part in? I know I have.  It’s like Ground Hog Day at its finest.  We relive every action, comment, or “not so nice thought” we’ve had or said to someone, and feel worse as time goes on.

I think one of our greatest challenges is to develop the skills to be able to switch our thinking — from negative to positive, or even negative to neutral ” because negative thoughts tend to linger endlessly, and there’s never any reward. In fact in my experience, negative thoughts snowball and never turn to positive, without a shift in mindset.

Eleanor Roosevelt had it right when she said, “nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” My Dad must have know Eleanor (probably not, but you never know) when he said, “Robin, it doesn’t matter what they think, it’s what you think. That’s what counts.”

What’s my take on the subject? After much study, I’d suggest the easiest and most direct route to disallowing the negative, is to change your thinking.  After all, your thoughts do create your world.

Hard to believe?  Think of it this way, and add arrows as you please.  Thoughts turn into emotions, which turn into actions, which turn into results (or lack thereof). Bottom line: Change your thinking ” Change your world.

Case in point. When I was traveling recently to meet with my Coach, and Mastermind group, I received repeated calls from my new landscape helper. I found missed call after missed call, or just a message with the voice mail, “call me.” Working all day, unable to pick up his calls, I became a bit anxious, wondering what was wrong. “Would he quit?” ‘did he have another job?” “Would I have to learn to ride the Big Bad Mower?” I live on a fairly large property, with lots of grass and trees, and was panicked at the thought of making friends with the real John Deere. After all, we’d only seen each other in passing!

Fretting about the future doesn’t serve anyone, and knowing how to read a situation for “what it is”, rather than “what it may be” is a lesson we should consider repeating often.  My landscape helper just needed to get his finances in order, and called often ” to speak with me. I took it far too personally, and expected the worst, rather than expecting the best.

So, there you have it.  I made myself feel badly for no reason.

My take away?  Watch what thoughts you put in your head. If they’re negative, I urge you to change your thinking.  Remember, change your thinking —  change your world.

Bonus points, I also defrag daily.  And you?